Dear Doctor,
If you’re like most people I know, myself included, you’ve probably caught
yourself saying or doing something that you can’t believe you said or did –
hurtful, stupid and self-sabotaging behaviors or habits that show up at
inopportune and inappropriate times.
To varying degrees, we all go through such unpleasantness, often looking past
these episodes as “points off the curve” or moments of temporary insanity.
Ignoring, deleting or candy-coating these circumstances isn’t necessarily your
best course of action, since they frequently hold valuable distinctions that can
help you grow, through your willingness to investigate and address them.
This perspective is developed in a brand new book by best-selling author Debbie
Ford, called “Why Good People Do Bad Things – How To Stop Being Your Own Worst
Enemy.” Brilliantly insightful while remaining thoroughly accessible, it is both
a philosophy book and a contemporary how-to manual, an easy-to-read yet
substantive invitation into the realm of self-exploration, with a twist –
instead of negating or denying those darker areas we perceive in ourselves, this
important research shows us how to embrace those aspects of individuality we may
have previously disowned.
Why is this necessary? Because the feeling of being whole and complete relies on
a full expression of all that we are, not only the stuff that looks good on a
magazine cover. With dexterity and the kind of ownership that comes with
personal reference, Ford guides us into relevant discovery, going beneath the
superficial luster to the essence of our true selves, the
greater-than-the-sum-of-its-parts total of the qualities that all have a place
in declaring and demonstrating who we really are.
Ford is best known for her “Shadow Process,” an experiential workshop that
uncovers our darker sides so we can learn to love them and apply them in
productive ways, rather than just being victimized by them. But in this
innovative work she blazes new trails, naming names, illustrating the typical
patterns with clever and interesting stories and delineations, and making what
would otherwise be very heavy, deep and cerebral introspection a kinder, more
playful and creative, and intensely revealing experience.
Objectively looking at the masks we hide behind, we find that what was meant to
be protection actually becomes an impediment to genuine presence, as we find
ourselves wrapped up more in our façade than in our authentic self. This is the
promise of “Why Good People Do Bad Things” – to integrate those “bad” attributes
inside us instead of battling them, and stop struggling to keep them under the
surface. Like trying to hold a beach ball under the water, it takes
concentration, strength and persistence to keep them down – and then, if we lose
focus for just an instant, they pop up and splash us, or worse, smack us in the
face. Debbie shows you how to end the charade of the false self, and welcome
yourself to a new you that is actually the you that you’ve always been.
Please support this outstanding author, coach and healer, and participate in her
book launch and special offer, by going to
www.debbieford.com/newbook.php
on Tuesday, March 11. We can all benefit from this significant work – it could
be the next step in your evolution as a whole person.
Dr. Dennis Perman, for The Masters Circle
PS New patients, new patients – check out guest speakers Patrick Gentempo, Bill
Esteb and Tony Palermo, plus the TMC coaches, in a new seminar on getting and
keeping the highest quality new patients. For more info, or to register, please
go to www.themasterscircle.com, or
call 800-451-4514.
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